Taking care of your mind/heart is equally important as taking care of your body. When our bodies get sick we know to go and visit the GP. We take the time to rest and allow our bodies to recover so that we can get back up on our feet again and do life. Sickness is our body saying I am not well take care of me. Depending on what is going on at the time you may not be able to keep food down so you stop eating. You stay in bed to rest rather then go out. The GP might advise you to take medication or antibiotics to support your body in fighting off viruses or infections. Your routine changes for awhile as you deal with whatever is going on so that you can heal/recover. It is hard to ignore being sick.

Our mind and heart require our attention at times. We shouldn’t ignore the signals. If you are feeling anxious, depressed, sad, angry or unhappy there is reason to stop and consider what is the cause. We all have those random off days when we don’t feel like ourselves. Those days are not so much of a concern. It’s the days you have that continue day in and day out where you can’t seem to get on top of it. That is the time you should consider getting some support.

We all need support at times. We go through experiences, circumstances that have a lasting impact and can take its toll. As an example when you lose someone close to you. Such as I lost my mum just over two years ago. Its natural to grieve and go through the emotions of it. There are circumstances that happen we have no control. I couldn’t have changed the circumstances that surrounded my mum she was very sick with cancer.

The good news is that there are areas of life we do have control. Who we hang around for instance. Should you continue in a friendship or relationship with someone that hurts you? They hurt your mind and your heart. I often talk about that in my blogs as I was one to stay in unhealthy relationships. From all of my experiences while it took years to figure out I no longer allow myself to be subjected to another persons bad behaviour. Bad behaviour aimed at another is hurtful.

What is bad behaviour?

Bad behaviour comes in many forms. Cruel remarks, insults, manipulation, lies, disrespectful communication, sarcasm, belittling, neglect, punishment, emotional/physical/spiritual abuse, threats, control, being excluded, judgemental, aggressive, rude and more.

There are people that live and breath bad behaviour. They don’t for a minute consider how it makes the other person feel. They don’t take accountability for the behaviour and often find it amusing when the person they are targeting reacts to it. They love to hurt and inflict pain. To add insult to injury they have a natural ability to make the other person feel like its their fault!

This is where you have the control to remove those people from your life. You do not need to continue being another persons punching bag. Those people have deeper problems then they allow themselves to believe. It is damaging to be around someone that treats you badly. It will mess with your mind and break your heart. It is intended to strip you of your human right to be safe and happy. As humans we all have the right to safety and peace. When another human tries to invade your space or tries to take away your right to live a happy life then its time to take a stand. You do not have to stay in that situation, you can choose to put a stop to it.

You most certainly don’t need anyone in your life that behaves badly. It will only break you on the inside and leave you hurt and lost. Yes that will mean less people in your life!!!

Your life will be better off without that type of treatment. Your mind and heart will have a chance to repair and get stronger. Your intuition and experience will be your warning bell. It won’t take as long to identify those people and leaving less time for them to blindside you. You will see the bad behaviour like neon signs on a billboard.

Your mind and heart deserves your time. Take good care of yourself!