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It is what it is …

AT nearly 53 years old this May 2023, second marriage for one year with my gorgeous husband, mother of five, fulltime employee, eldest sister of four, daughter to my awesome Dad and a friend to my friends, life time and time again shows me how it can be so senseless on this planet.

What am I talking about you ask?

I’m talking about people.

People in your family or friends, colleagues, just people.

In my experience people do what they want and there is no chance of changing them.

People dismiss, disregard, disrespect, disengage OR DISTANCE themselves from you for whatever reason and most times it is beyond your control.

Sitting here on the weekend thinking about the people that are no longer in my life.

The main common factor that ties the people together that are no longer in my life revolves around boundaries.

It may have taken me decades but I finally figured it out that I don’t have to let people walk all over me. I have been there and done that in life from a young age. It got me nowhere but broken. It put me in situations I should not have been in.

I finally stood up and said NO to being lied about, disrespected, kicked around and being dismissed.

Unfortunately that means people will leave.

The people that leave are those who take no responsibility for their actions. They are people who like to have the final say, the people that don’t listen to your side, the people that dictate every part of the relationship. They are the one sided people. The people that have no empathy, compassion, kindness or heart.

I often think about these people, I wonder what made them like that?

What turned their hearts so hard and cold?

Why are they so blinded by how they make others feel?

Do these people live happy?

It really is senseless to me.

Then as I sit and think about these people I reach the same conclusion every time, which is that I can not change anyone, they are who they want to be. People will come and go from your life. It can be hard to accept but in the end it is what it is !!!

Some people don’t want to know what you have to say, they don’t have a genuine interest in your well being NOR do they care how they behave. They are the people that feel as though they have every right to treat others in ways they wouldn’t want to be treated and yet they still don’t get it?

More mysterious is the behaviour of people then how we are born and how we die. It is one of those forever questions we will probably never be able to answer and I guess it’s best to leave it at that …..

What are your experiences with people, please share in comments.


By Anu mari ~ The Change that Changes You

A mother of five, working full-time and enjoy writing blogs which are inspired by my own journey. A journey filled with ups and downs and many lessons. Life is filled with change. We will be faced with change we cant control and the change we can which comes down to our choices and the decisions we make. Sometimes we put decisions off hoping things will change and then they don't. That's when we need to decide?

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