At times I still think about how I managed to put up with so much unjust treatment. It took me years to figure out that the blame was not solely on me. I was a genuine person that needed communication, understanding, care, protection and safety. I was a genuine person that hurt when I received only small morsels of what I needed. The lack of care and empathy made me feel like there was something wrong with me that I wasn’t worthy, important or valuable. I was a genuine person that reacted to manipulation, lies, control, stress, worries and lots of loneliness. This did not only happen once or twice it was in cycles for years.
A healthy person who loves you will never wish for you to feel lonely, sad, depressed, stressed, anxious, neglected or threatened. Knowing what I know now since being in a healthy relationship for over 5 years it can be confronting to see how deceived I was, how lost, confused and mistreated. These are the very reasons that I write what I write. Its not to keep rehashing my past, its to call abuse for what it is.
I despise abuse!
Abuse gets into the minds of the most innocent and distorts their reality. Abuse can divide you from loved ones or friends. It destroys with no mercy while the abuser walks away as if nothing happened, seemingly oblivious to the destruction they have caused.
Its plain and simple that a person who truly loves and values you won’t want you to feel hurt or pain.
Simple…..
A person who is not safe will continue to mistreat you over and over until you have no strength to pick yourself up. All of your own thoughts and opinions wont matter to them. Their priority is only for themselves. They will do whatever it takes to have life the way they want. They want control. They want compliance, they want someone that will behave and do as they say. No questions asked, no rights to your own feelings. YOU must exist only for what they believe and say. In their eyes you are dumb and stupid.
ABUSE IS NEVER OK EVER …..
Abuse, whether it is physical, emotional, spiritual or verbal. You do not have to put up with that type of treatment.
Love wouldn’t allow that. Real love and genuine care would not mistreat you. Love in all of its fullness would only want to see you thrive in safety, care and ALL the goodness that comes with it. It does not leave you wondering, confused, alone and desperate.
Real Love keeps you safe and happy….
Abuse is abuse and lets call it for what it is……
PLEASE stand up for yourself, move on, break free and sit with people that are truly loving.
The Change that changes you 