The reality is people everywhere come face to face with unwanted moments in life that initiate the question, what is the point?
It’s a time in which you may find yourself desperately searching for a reason as to why you are travelling on a road that leaves you feeling lonely, confused, sad, rejected, disappointed or even afraid. You may have thought you were heading down a road leading you to all the good things life has to offer. Perhaps it was that way for a while. Life was going ok. It may not have been perfect yet the positive reasons for doing life outweighed some of the negative ones.
Then at some point the scales changed and the negative outweighed any positives. Negative is symbolised by the (minus) sign. If you see a minus in your bank account you know that something has been deducted. Often the negatives we experience reflect a minus or a deduction. The more deductions you experience the more you may end up feeling empty. It is in the emptiness that the question arises, what is the point?
If the balance in our bank account shows empty then the result is that we can’t buy anything, we have no money. Usually this tends to fuel us with purpose, the purpose to find ways to fill that bank account back up making it usable. Everyone knows that without money life literally stops. You won’t be able to buy food or pay your bills etc.
When life happens and something has been taken away from you it is all too easy to give in and settle with the question, what is the point? When you’re feeling empty how can you possibly give much to anyone let alone yourself? When it feels as though there is no point all of the purpose that once drove you in life becomes silent. In fact it is all too easy in those moments to just quietly settle back into a life which you can just blend into humanity and almost drop off the radar. You may begin convincing yourself there’s no point in dreaming again. There’s no point in caring anymore about anything as it all seems to add up to disappointment.
If you have read any of my more recent blogs you would know that my life has had some deductions of late. It has left me feeling quite empty. I used to be a mum of five not so long ago. While I haven’t stopped being a mum the circumstance I am currently walking through has meant that I am only looking after my youngest 9 year old. It is just the two of us. The minute that I start thinking ‘what is the point’ it is my son that reminds me why I need to keep going. He gives me a reason to continue with life even though I feel extremely empty and disappointed with how life has turned out for me and all of my children for that matter.
If I focus too much on my needs and disappointments, my thinking all too easily heads down the path of how unfair life is. When I shift my focus onto my son I suddenly realise I have a purpose beyond myself. That as a parent I need to take care of him and do whatever it takes to ensure he feels safe, loved, provided for, valued and secure.
When asking what the point is, I can answer with
my son is the point.
When we are living only for ourselves we can become consumed and overwhelmed in what we don’t have and how difficult life is.
When life is weighing down on you and you find yourself desperately asking, what is the point? , consider the people that are in your life who need you to keep going. It is other people that give us the reason for living. At the end of the day whether your bank account is full or empty the value in people far outweighs money. The people in our life can never be replaced. And while you may feel that you have nothing to offer you may be surprised how much your life speaks to other people as you keep going despite the hardship. You may inspire someone in their difficulties to continue on when they see that you made it through your desperate circumstance.
It speaks hope and life to others.
Whether you have crowds of people you are inspiring or just the one person does not matter. It is not about numbers! It is about people.
When I was at school I used to hate mathematics, I did quite poorly. I always found that adding up was far easier than taking away or subtracting.
We all love life when things are adding up! It always hurts when life is taking something from you.
Life is a little like mathematics. We experience additions, subtractions, division and multiplication.
When there are more subtractions than additions just keep in mind that there is a point!
Life can’t keep subtracting forever eventually the additions will happen, *preaching to myself too.
Although life may have taken a lot from you, it doesn’t take away from you as a person. You still have purpose and value.