There is nothing worse than finding yourself some place you never intended to be. Although it can get worse when you don’t know how to get yourself out!
Life is such that even when we are doing our best suddenly the world can cave in on us. It may feel as though someone just switched the light off. Everything turns dark and suddenly you are forced to use your other senses to try navigating the situation as your eyes struggle to see.
It’s only normal to struggle seeing in the dark.
I find it very difficult navigating the house in the middle of the night when its pitch black. I might be convinced that the end of the bed finished in a certain spot and THEN suddenly the forgotten little toe manages to attack the corner of the bed like some wild animal. The excruciating pain that follows seals the deal in my mind that I will never do that again! Try telling that to the little toe and see if it remembers….
I’ve heard it said that when someone loses their sight they must rely on their other senses of hearing, touch, smell and taste. All of these others senses just grow in strength, so someone that can’t see can have exceptional abilities to hear.
When life caves in suddenly everything we relied on previously may not be available. We may be forced to look at things differently. It could be someone you relied on, who was a part of your life in a very big way. When they were a part of your life there were certain things you didn’t need to consider as they took care of that. Whatever the reasons a person is no longer in your life it is up to you to take up the things they once took care of. This can be a very difficult season. It is almost as if parts of you that were not needed are forced into action,
almost like unused muscles.
At least when we ourselves choose to turn the light off there is some form of control in the situation but it is very challenging when someone else switches that light off. You may have tried everything to make something work and all of your best efforts crumbled into a heap.
So what helps you in the dark?
When you find yourself in the dark rushing is definitely out of the picture. You can’t rush when everything is difficult to see. It’s a time of taking one step at a time, remaining calm and patient regardless of the million different emotions or thoughts that may try and entrap you into a corner.
It requires a lot of focus.
It may mean that you can only find a small little torch to use for the time being. Meaning that although you don’t have all the answers to the current storm in your life little steps can provide you with an ability to move forward rather than just sitting there waiting…. And feeling overwhelmed with fear and worry. While the little torch doesn’t compare to an actual light, it can give you a sense of comfort. Just like when a storm causes the power to go out and you frantically search for every available candle. Having candles around the house when the lights have gone out brings a little relief. It is a time to remind yourself that while in the current moment it is impossible to see beyond your immediate situation, eventually storms pass and the lights come back on.
We can’t always understand the reasons for why life presents us with incredibly difficult seasons. It is only normal to ask questions when life caves in. It may take quite some time to come to grips with the ordeal.
Try not to do it all alone, reach out to people who are around you.
Most importantly remember it’s OK to not have it all together when your world caves in.
Just like sunrises and sunsets your life will come out of the dark and start shining again.